going against the grain

before i go on this rant, here’s a beautiful quote from Erving Goffman that points out the liminality of existing in a society as an individual:

“Without something to belong to, we have no stable self, and yet total commitment and attachment to any social unit implies a kind of selflessness. Our sense of being a person can come from being drawn into a wider social unit; our sense of selfhood can rise through the little ways we resist the pull. Our status is backed by the solid buildings of the world, while our sense of personal identity resides in the crack.”

doesn’t breaking a social taboo excite you?! or am i the only one? acknowledging that our society has certain rules and then relentlessly breaking them can be so intoxicating. it’s like your claiming your individuality through choosing to do something that mostly everyone you know would never decide to do. maybe rebelliousness is my nature. maybe i’m just a weirdo. maybe i just don’t give a fuck about what you think. i believe in hedonism… with a certain vague ethical compass. i think as long as your pleasure doesn’t conflict with anyone else’s pleasure, THEN GO FOR IT. without going into much detail, i’d like to say that breaking the frame can make one realize how stupid and ungrounded some social rules really are. like honestly–WHO GIVES A FUCK?!

life’s too fuckin’ short. like yeah, you have to have a job… pay bills… cook food for yourself AND THEN DO THE DISHES. so all that shitty stuff that you do to simply exist as a functioning member of society should really just motivate you to do the things you really wanna do for yourself, but that the rest of society may shun… go ahead and work your 9 to 5, but once you clock out and all the dishes are done… let your freak flag fly, baby! get that tramp stamp tattoo, or get that tongue-piercing, or date that guy everyone thinks is weird but you find irresistible. just fuckin’ do it. just give in to what you really want, give in to your animalistic instincts, give in to what you think will give you pleasure. because who the fuck is society to dictate what you should and should not do?! what you should and should not like? deep down everyone has some shit they’re embarrassed to talk about–why do you think the internet is such a creepy place? it’s because no one can connect their real life identity to their online persona. no one know’s that becky from college algebra is a dominatrix on the weekends and whips 40 year old men she finds on craigslist into shape when they can’t state the pythagorean theorem. and what’s more is that it’s no ones fucking business that becky likes to spank old, wrinkly asses. fuck it. not my ass, not my problem.

that being said… once that pleasure is obtained… you can take down your freak flag and go back to existing as a “normal”person…. that is, until you have the itch again.


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